As children, our survival depends on staying connected to our caregivers. It’s a simple truth: without them, we cannot thrive. That’s why they say, “We are wired for connection.” However, growing up with caregivers who are not attuned to …
Category: Relationships
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of the overwhelming fear of being abandoned. However, it’s important to recognize the …
IFS and Attachment Theory
Have you ever wondered why you react to certain situations or relationships in a specific way? Are you curious about the intricate workings of your mind and how it shapes your experiences? Today, I want to dive into two fascinating …
When You ‘Act Out’ It Might Be Part Of You That Is Trying To Protect You
The last time I ‘acted out’, my inner child was trying to defend me. She felt that the other person had unjustly exaggerated a mistake I had made, and her response was ‘fight’. She was trying to protect me. When …
Acting Out
Pause – When you feel yourself about to ‘act out,’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you? Can you think? I am feeling so much …
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Leave a comment if you know this inner push / pull dynamic. I think it is something most of us have experienced, if not in a relationship, then in another area of life. A wonderfully effective way to work with …
Does Your Relationship Have A Future?
According to Psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski’s (@lewandowskiphd) research, going through these questions and answering ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will give you some insight into the potential longevity of your relationship. The more questions you answer ‘yes’ to, your relationship will likely …
Needs and the Avoidantly Attached
You may take pride in lacking needs, which has served as a protective mechanism in the past. You are likely to have developed a strong sense of self-reliance resulting in independence and excellent capabilities. However, does your fear of depending …
7 Things Do When You Have Been Ghosted
Leave a comment if you’ve ever been ghosted and found it triggering. I hope you find these tips helpful. Let me know how you handled being ghosted. It might help someone else. Tomorrow I’ll follow up with journal prompts to …
7 Things To Say Instead Of Ghosting
The following options leave room for hope, so only use these if they are true. Work has been crazy, and it needs to be my priority right now. I think should part ways, so you are not messed around. I’m …