It’s okay to need more space in a family relationship. Let me say it again – It’s okay to need more space in a relationship. When you have grown up taking care of others emotionally or being afraid of their …
Category: Relationships
Creating Distance in a Relationship Can be a Form of Self-Care
Let me know in the comments which ones worked for you; 1,2,3,4, or 5 – or if something different worked for you Love, Jen
Attachment Styles and Relational Distance
Attachment styles exist on a spectrum. You can be more or less anxious or more or less avoidant in your attachment style. About 80% of distressed couples who go to couple therapy are in the anxious/avoidant dynamic. Have you ever …
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
If attachment anxiety resonates with you, let me know in the comments. When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of …
Recording for my Book, Heal Your Anxious Attachment
A day in the studio recording 20 pages of practices for my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”, landing 1st Feb 2024. When I record the practices, I do them at the same time. It helps to anchor the energy …
Anxious Adaptation
When you find yourself in the middle of a protest behaviour, acting out, but desperately trying to form some kind of connection, know that your behaviour makes sense when put in context. There are younger parts of you that are …
Attachment Adaptations and Trauma
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” landing Feb 2024. When you have one of the insecure attachment styles, it is easy to be self-critical and feel flawed in some way when you see yourself …
What a ‘No’ Feels Like In Your Body
A few years ago, I watched my kids as toddlers start to distinguish between the bodily felt sense of ‘I’m hungry, and I’m sleepy’. It made me smile to see my daughter fast asleep with a sandwich literally hanging out …
The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic – Can it work?
This is one of the main dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it? We also tackle the big question: …