Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
Category: Psychotherapy
The Cycle Breakers Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
How Trauma is Transmitted Intergenerationally
Intergeneratioanl trauma is real. Check out this paper “Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms” by Yehuda & Lehrner (2018) for some fantastic research-based insights. Imagine a child growing up in a household with an alcoholic mother. …
What is a Cycle Breaker?
Attachment issues often pass through family lines by the way we are parented and then parent. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the intergenerational patterns and decide to consciously parent in a different way. Some …
When Your Mother Uses You For Emotional Support
As adults, we might find emotionally needy people repulsive and then criticise ourselves for feeling that repulsion. This can show up as we parents appropriately needy children. There might be part of us that wants to run away from their …
Cycle Breaking
Healing is not a destination. It’s a journey. I’m so glad you are on this journey with me. Love to all, Jen Click here for my Cycle Breakers Course
Cycle Breaker
Who are the CYCLE BREAKERS out there??? Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role, and it is often not chosen …
6 Best Trauma Books From A Licensed Therapist
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
Being an Attuned ‘Enough’ Mother
Mothering in 2022 is no easy feat. We have to be attentive to our children but be careful not to smother them. Give them enough freedom, but make sure they are safe enough. So much that used to rest on …