What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Category: Psychotherapy
Feeling Loved and Important
Feeling loved and Important to your partner is an attachment need. BUT HOW??? Here are some ways to make your partner feel loved and important:
Being Understood and Accepted
Which one has more power for you? To be understood or accepted? To be understood is to have someone say, “You make sense” in one way or another.To be accepted is to belong. Both are food for the heart and …
Attachment Needs
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This cycle is frustrating and usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can identify it in …
Feel Like Whatever You Do is Wrong?
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness. In it you will learn: My gift to you, Love, Jen
Unmasking Attachment Anxiety
Attachment anxiety is when we learn as children that we can’t depend on the adults around us, so we adapt our behaviour to suit the situation we are experiencing in that relationship to stay alive, fed and loved. One adaptation …
UK Adventures
last month, I went for a beautiful walk with my family and thought how wonderful it would be to hang out with my friends and family in the UK. One hour later, I had one hour to pack my suitcase …
Understanding Attachment Wounding: Healing Unhelpful Relationship Patterns
As children, our survival depends on staying connected to our caregivers. It’s a simple truth: without them, we cannot thrive. That’s why they say, “We are wired for connection.” However, growing up with caregivers who are not attuned to …
What is a Dis-Order? Through a trauma-informed lens.
I have been considering the word ‘dis-order’ when referring to anxiety. Anxiety makes sense when our nervous system has gone into fight or flight (sympathetic activation) when we have to do something scary or have just had a fright. It …
Anxiety or Anxiety Disorder?
You might not know there is a big difference between anxiety and an anxiety disorder. Most of us will experience anxiety on and off, but how do you know when anxiety has become a real problem for you? Anxiety is …