We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and …
Tag: Trauma
Crazy, Not Insane
I just finished this documentary about forensic psychiatrist Dorothy Otnow Lewis’s work with serial killers. She spent years trying to work out what makes a killer, including looking at the neuroscience and brain scans of murderers. She discovers evidence to …
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …
Trauma Symptoms
When we have experienced neglect or abuse in childhood, the child must adapt to survive. The child might survive by leaving their body when the abuse is taking place. Then as an adult, when there is physical discomfort, or someone …
Why did I write “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”?
Because you asked for it. About two years ago, I went through a phase where I was posting a lot about attachment styles. I was asked repeatedly, “Is there a book you can recommend about healing from it?” So, like …
Learning Vedic Meditation
Vedic meditation is a technique dating back thousands of years in India that emphasises effortlessness in meditation, allowing thoughts and accepting what is happening in your body as you meditate. My teacher, Anne, did a beautiful ceremony and gave us …
A Conscious Relationship
This is how a relationship can become conscious; through love, support, understanding, compassion, communication and trust.
Suicidal Thoughts Through an IFS Lens
1 in 6 people have serious suicidal thoughts in Australia, with the “lifetime prevalence of suicidal thoughts ranging from 64% among cisgender men to 90% among non-binary participants and 91% among trans men.” (AIHW, 2023). Suicidal thoughts often cause a …
Attachment Adaptations and Trauma
This is an excerpt from my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” landing Feb 2024. When you have one of the insecure attachment styles, it is easy to be self-critical and feel flawed in some way when you see yourself …
A Compassionate Quote from Ariella Schwartz
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