As a trauma therapist, I’ve heard numerous stories about the messages people received in childhood that made them feel unimportant. Whether it was a sibling who demanded all of your parents’ time and energy, leaving little for you, or parents …
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Dr Alexandra Quote
When you have been betrayed, you have a natural scar from that experience. Many people would call that experience traumatic. It is traumatic because your person, who is supposed to have your back and be one of your best friends, …
Things That Prevent Us From Talking About Birth Trauma
In research into traumatic birthing experiences, they found that “Women attribute their traumatic childbirth experience primarily to lack and/or loss of control, issues of communication, and practical/emotional support. They believe that in many cases, their trauma could have been reduced …
Somatic Trauma Healing
I just wanted to pop on and let you know about this offering, co-presented by ERGOS Institute of Somatic Education and The Embody Lab starting February 29th, 2024. This incredible 5-day event is led by teachers at the forefront of …
I Don’t Need You
Ever heard someone say, “I don’t need anyone”? It might sound super independent, but often, it’s a kind of armour that was placed there for a reason. Those with avoidant attachment styles might find this phrase super relatable. It’s like …
Attachment Trauma
A holistic approach to trauma defines attachment injury/wounding not as an event or a challenged relationship, but rather as a disruption and overwhelm to our body-mind’s capacity to feel safe, secure, cared for, and consistently connected with. Attachment trauma may …
The Cycle Breakers’ Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
The repeating cycle of attachment wounding
We all have repeating patterns or ‘cycles’ in our family of origin. It might be repeating patterns of failed marriages, drug and alcohol problems, or family conflict. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the cycle and …
Crazy, Not Insane
I just finished this documentary about forensic psychiatrist Dorothy Otnow Lewis’s work with serial killers. She spent years trying to work out what makes a killer, including looking at the neuroscience and brain scans of murderers. She discovers evidence to …
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …