There are two main parts to building secure attachment. The first step is to build what I call internal secure attachment. When you have an internal secure attachment, you know at your very core that you will be there for …
Tag: Healing
When People Rage, They Are Suffering
What does it mean to suffer? There are many ways we can suffer. We can suffer physically with pain, mentally with mental illness or rumination, or spiritually with a lack of meaning or moral dilemma. Suffering is part of the …
We are all Stardust
There is something about this idea that gives me relief. To know that you and I are made up of the same cosmic matter. That the elements that make up your body: Oxygen 65% Carbon 18.5% Hydrogen 9.5% Nitrogen 3.2% …
6 Ways to Stimulate the Vagus Nerve For Improved Mental Health
Improving mental health starts with taking care of our mind and body! The vagus nerve plays a crucial role in our well-being, and stimulating it can lead to profound benefits for our mental and emotional state. Here are 6 simple …
The Five Components of Compassion
wonder what might stop you from connecting with another person’s suffering? Is it the thought that you will be dragged into their suffering? Is it fear that you will be agreeing with them on some level? Is it fear of …
5 Neuroscience Tips To Help You Focus – From a Licensed Therapist
Have you ever wasted a whole day or week doing easy tasks? I know I have! I find blocking out dedicated time for more complex tasks to be incredibly effective. During that time, I have the ‘do not disturb’ button …
Do You Feel Too Much?
We all have a story surrounding our relationship with feelings. We might have learnt that feelings are dangerous if we grew up with dysregulated parents or that feelings are shameful if we grew up with parents who were disconnected from …
Heart-Wisdom
I’m just reflecting on how I move in and out of my heart wisdom throughout the day. I can stay connected through the mundane but allow bigger things to grab my attention. Mostly different forms of irritation. Irritation is low-level …
Being Alone and The Heart
When I am more connected to my heart, I am connected to my power. Not power as in force, power as in love-power. When connected to my love-power, knowing what I need and desire and which direction to go in …
When We Feel Fear in a Relationship, We Have Two Ways to Deal With It.
When you bring curiosity into your conversation, everything changes. It can snap you out of old patterns and into something completely new. If you need help with this, seeing a therapist can be a fantastic start.