Intergeneratioanl trauma is real. Check out this paper “Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms” by Yehuda & Lehrner (2018) for some fantastic research-based insights. Imagine a child growing up in a household with an alcoholic mother. …
Tag: attachment theory
What is a Cycle Breaker?
Attachment issues often pass through family lines by the way we are parented and then parent. You become a cycle breaker when you first see the intergenerational patterns and decide to consciously parent in a different way. Some …
When Your Mother Uses You For Emotional Support
As adults, we might find emotionally needy people repulsive and then criticise ourselves for feeling that repulsion. This can show up as we parents appropriately needy children. There might be part of us that wants to run away from their …
Mother’s Day 2022
Two years ago on the eve of Mother’s Day I was called to write a workbook about the mother wound. It was something that is still a great resource, the SIX STEPS TO HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND, at the moment …
What If It Was Never Your Fault
Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Take care of yourselves wherever you are. Love, Jen
Early Relationship
It is common to have many questions and no answers during this phase. Do they like me? How much do I like them? Are we compatible? Will I like their friends and family? What would my friends and family think …
The Couple Bubble as the Secure Home Base
As adults, we need safe and secure places where we can come to be refueled and replenished. We venture out into the world, meet challenges, and experience things that rock us. Our partner is there for us at these times. …
Do You Have a ‘Couple Bubble’?
The couple bubble is a mutual agreement that, in essence, creates a secure relationship. There is a sense of safety, protection, caring, and love. When there is a couple bubble in place, there is a sense of exhaling, knowing that …
Working with Limerence
When we work with our inner child, we are working with our patterns around limerence. Know that you have got this! If you want to know more about Inner Child or ‘parts work’, check out the ‘Heal Your Inner Child’ …