Being comfortable being alone is a deep form of self-love. How can you love yourself if you never spend time with yourself? If you jump from one relationship to another, how can you have the space in yourself to know …
Are We Well-Suited?
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, how could that area be energised somehow? How could you meet in that area differently? What experiments could you do …
Relationships are a Co-creation
You cannot rely on your partner to always be available, attuned to you, or help you heal. A relationship is a joint effort where both partners contribute to its growth. By building trust and learning to support each other during …
Feeling Like a Grown-Up!
I turned 45 years old. I was wondering how reaching what I hope will be the middle of my life would feel. Like many 45-year-olds, I’m aware of my aging skin, the increased amount of beautiful silver hair on my …
5 Tips for When You Feel New Relationship Anxiety
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxious when we become vulnerable because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. Let …
What is “New Relationship Anxiety”?
Anxiety is usually protective. It is trying to stop us from being hurt. Feeling some anxiety at the beginning of a new relationship is quite common. When we enter a new relationship, we start to dance with vulnerability. Vulnerability requires …
The Avoidant Partner
When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
Whenever You Feel Desperate To Be Chosen, It’s a Deep Calling To Choose Yourself
Big shout out to Tory Eletto @nytherapist – she’s one of the therapists I’ve been following from the beginning, and I LOVE her work. Like – every post! So, how do you choose yourself? Like Dr Richard Schwartz (founder of …
Blaming Partner Patterns
When you have an anxious adaptation in relationships, conflict signals danger to the nervous system. When this happens, your nervous system fills with energy and prepares you for fight or flight. This is super helpful if a tiger is chasing …
Blaming Partner
When in conflict, if you have an anxious adaptation, it is common to get into a pattern of feeling alone and hopeless in your relationship. Rather than give up, you might find yourself becoming critical of your partner and pursuing …