I have just finished reading ‘Group’ by Christie Tate. It was an incredible, heartfelt, vulnerable and gutwrenching journey she took me on—the journey of healing and learning to form a secure attachment supported by a group. For most people, the …
How Does it Feel to Have INNER Secure Attachment?
How does it feel to have INNER secure attachment? When you have INNER secure attachment: Sounds like something we all want! But how do you cultivate INNER secure attachment? I lay out some of the ways in tomorrow’s post and …
Healing Anxious Attachment
Whenever I speak to someone who has ‘earned secure attachment’ and ask how they did it, they say, “It was a combination of things”. That was my experience, too. It wasn’t just one thing. You can’t change your attachment style …
Happy New Year
My word for 2023 was ‘FREEDOM’. It was the one that jumped out when I looked at it. A huge part of freedom for me is being location-free. I live in Sydney, Australia; my family live in the UK; my …
Benefits of Being Assertive
Here’s a note about assertiveness and why it’s often the best course of action, even though it might feel scary. Assertiveness is when we have strong self-esteem and maintain healthy boundaries. Assertive communication is direct and clear and makes space …
Meditation And The Brain
This research paper is an oldie but a goodie. I love it because it shows how the body is directly linked to the mind. When people do less with their minds, their brain tissue responds, and certain brain areas change …
You Don’t Need Validation
Differentiating from your family of origin is a journey. When you come from a family with strong traditions and family norms, differentiating can be difficult, and there can be strong backlash. Backlash can sound like threatening to cut you out …
Pre-Order; Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Writing this book was a birthing journey. I thought writing a book would be relatively easy. I love research. I love healing, and I love the subject matter. But writing it was a labour of love. There were hours and …
Effects Of Meditation Rival Antidepressants for Depression & Anxiety
I could list all of the benefits of meditation, but you know them. There is something else that blocks you from actually meditating. The truth is that when you first sit down to meditate, it is likely to be uncomfortable. …