As a trauma therapist, I have sat with clients for about 15,600 hours and held anger (back of a napkin calculation).
I have sat with myself and held my anger.
Anger is often protective – when we talk to anger, it will frequently say things like: ‘I kept you safe from dad. You needed me back then, or ‘I’m afraid if I stop being angry and pushing people away, people will get close to me and hurt me.’
I often find that under the anger are more vulnerable parts. Parts of us hold grief, regret, or pain.
It can be challenging to sit with anger alone. This is where therapy is helpful. In therapy, you can learn how to be with your anger and pain in a different way that transforms the heat of the anger and the depth of the pain.
Wherever you are in your healing journey, you are in my heart.
Big love, Jen
