As a trauma therapist, I have sat with clients for about 15,600 hours and held anger (back of a napkin calculation).I have sat with myself and held my anger.Anger is often protective – when we talk to anger, it will …
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![“Anger deadens desire” There’s just no passion any more... It is common after an unrepaired rupture, where anger lingers, that desire will vanish.](https://jennynurick-wp-media-us-east.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/23_02_24_anger-deadens-desire-copy-650x650.png)
Anger Deadens Desire
Unresolved anger will deaden desire. Unresolved anger will often happen when you are in a negative cycle in your relationship. If you would like to know more about your negative cycle, then you will love my FREE Track YOUR negative …
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Anger as a Sign to put a Boundary in Place
Anger is an emotion that is often a messenger. It is great to get curious about what the message is and if a boundary needs to be put in place. For example, suppose one of your friends repeatedly criticises your …
![Signs Of Emotional Exhaustion You are struggling to set boundaries You are fulfilling obligations to your detriment You get angry quickly You don’t have time or energy for anything You find yourself complaining a lot You feel physically exhausted You just want to sleep and for it to all go away You feel hopeless You lack focus and/or purpose](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/04_05_2021_Signs-Of-Emotional-Exhaustion-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Signs Of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens for me, I know it is a big shout out …
![How to Reconnect After an Argument I felt pretty angry when we were having that conversation. I'm sorry if that pushed you away. I'm feeling quite disconnected right now and a bit scared. Could I have a hug? I'm not sure we resolved anything there. Could we try to discuss it again in a different way tomorrow? That was quite an intense discussion for me. Can we just sit together and have some tea? You feel distant after that conversation. Is there anything you need? Laugh about something unrelated. Talk about something else that is neutral for you both, like the gardening or a movie you watched.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/19_03_2021_How-to-Reconnect-After-an-Argument-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Reconnect After an Argument
We all know that uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument’s energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
![Embracing Emotion Helps Our Relationships Get comfortable with the four basic emotions of mad, sad, glad and scared and build your repertoire from there. The power is in the pause Turn towards one another in conflict rather than away Being vulnerable takes courage – courageous people are vulnerable Discovering what is under the default emotions](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/06_03_2021_Embracing-Emotion-Helps-Our-Relationships-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Embracing Emotion Helps Our Relationships
We are not taught how to deal with our emotions at school, so most of us are left to figure it out alone. When we get hurt, the tendency is to do one of three things: move away, move closer …
![What Kind of Relationship Struggles Are You Facing During the Pandemic](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/1-2-1-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
What Kind of Relationship Struggles Are You Facing During the Pandemic
Here is a list of everything you shared with me in the last 24 hours when I asked, ‘what kind of relationship struggles are you facing during the pandemic?’ A few of them showed up again and again; missing physical …
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Anger Might Show Us Where We Need To Put A Boundary In Place
Anger is an emotion that is often a messenger. It is great to get curious about what the message is and if a boundary needs to be put in place. For example, if one of your friends repeatedly criticises your …
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The Art Of Re-Parenting Part 8
“Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.” CARL JUNG As children we are complete, whole and unique. As we become socialised by our parents, we learn that parts of …