A little gift to share on Christmas Day. As Christmas day can come with many expectations and disappointments, you might like to take time to take care of your younger parts before, during, and after the festivities. I hope your …
Loving a Child
How do you consciously grow your capacity to love? I’d love to hear in the comments.
3 Tips for Surviving In-Laws This Holiday Season
What issues have you had with your in-laws? Let me know in the comments
6 Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
New Article for the Readers Digest – 2 min read
6 Tips for Dating Someone with Anxious Attachment
You suspect (or have been told by your partner) that you are dating someone who is anxiously attached. You are growing in love with them and want to be close to them, but it feels difficult. You wonder if there …
Crazy, Not Insane
I just finished this documentary about forensic psychiatrist Dorothy Otnow Lewis’s work with serial killers. She spent years trying to work out what makes a killer, including looking at the neuroscience and brain scans of murderers. She discovers evidence to …
The Neurobiological Impact of Trauma
This repository of emotion, felt sensations and memories go on to form what in IFS (Internal Family Systems) are called ‘parts’. Each part is frozen in time and space. So the traumatised 6-year-old will feel like they did when they …
“Heal Your Anxious Attachment” Lands February 2024.
I wrote it to help people. Plain and simple. It is so much easier to have someone who has done the research and tried and tested what works. “Heal Your Anxious Attachment” is a journey of healing, of coming home …
Trauma Symptoms
When we have experienced neglect or abuse in childhood, the child must adapt to survive. The child might survive by leaving their body when the abuse is taking place. Then as an adult, when there is physical discomfort, or someone …