Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
Working with Your Inner Child
Over the years, I have spent time getting to know all the parts of my inner child at many different ages. Each age holds new gems of self-discovery and power that have been locked away. What lights up your …
What is the inner child?
Children are born explorers. Their creativity isn’t just for fun—it’s how they make sense of the world. Every new sound, texture, and experience sparks curiosity. They reach, taste, listen, and play their way through life, learning as they go. But …
Heal Your Inner Child
If you are new to the power of parts work, you’ll love this course: “Meet your Inner Child” – in this self-paced course, you will meet your inner child and learn how to parent and maintain the connection with them. …
The Hidden Avoidant Part in Anxious Attachment
Most people don’t realise this about anxious attachment: There’s usually an avoidant part underneath. Healing means recognising both the anxious part that chases and the avoidant part that retreats. Through parts work (IFS), you can bring self-compassion to these conflicting …
Why Avoidant Partners Pull Away
If your partner shuts down or distances themselves when stressed, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. People with avoidant attachment styles often move away as a protective strategy—not to hurt you, but to keep themselves safe. Avoidant behaviour isn’t about …
You Crave Connection, But You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners. Why?
You crave connection, but you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Why? Does this sound familiar? You crave connection, but you keep choosing emotionally unavailable partners. Why? Here’s what might be happening beneath the surface: The good news? Awareness is the …
Why We Choose Avoidant Partners – an IFS Perspective
“It’s safer to pull back.” But: This isn’t the whole truth. It’s a protective part, trying to shield you from the potential hurt. Real healing happens when you get curious about this part, meet it with compassion, and show it …
We Choose Avoidant Partners: An Internal Family Systems Perspective
‘Many of you may feel stuck in a painful cycle—repeatedly choosing avoidant or emotionally distant partners despite craving closeness. You might wonder why you always feel unseen, unheard, or unimportant in relationships. When you feel this way, it is common …
The Strengths of Your Ancestors
When we look back at our ancestors, we can often find surprising, hidden strengths and things that connect us to our sense of belonging in the world. Ever since I was little, I have been desperate to see the …