A few months ago, I did an intense spiritual cleanse to support my hormonal system. It involved fasting, meditation, and daily group sessions with sacred medicine. On the first day, I walked into a room full of women, and something …
What You Do in Private Always Shows in Public
What you do in private always shows in public. Reading shows in conversations. Your workouts show in your physique. Your diet shows in your energy. Your discipline shows in your confidence. Your focus shows in your results. You are what …
Raising Children on the Other Side of the World from Grandparents
I raised my children on the other side of the world from my parents. It wasn’t something I planned; I married someone from another country. Yes, my kids missed out on having my parents in the same city, but they …
When I Ask How You’re Doing, I Always Want the Long Version
When I ask how you’re doing, I always want the long version. In my one-on-one sessions, people often apologise for “dumping” everything in the first 10 minutes. But that’s exactly what I want. Therapy is the place for the unfiltered …
They Were Just Broken — But That Doesn’t Make It Okay
Me, to my therapist:“But they weren’t evil. They were just broken. They had their own trauma.” My therapist:“And that’s valid. But let me ask you something… did their trauma give them the right to create new trauma inside you?” And …
When You Realise You’re Not Reacting to Your Partner — You’re Reacting to Your Childhood
There is a moment in therapy that changes everything. It is the moment you realise that the reaction you are having right now is not really about your partner. It feels like it is. It looks like it is. But …
We Aren’t Meant to Move Through Everything Alone
There’s a special kind of fear that hits when you get sick or hurt while living alone. That sudden awareness that no one else is here if I need help. Even if you’re usually strong and capable, that moment can …
The Gift of Slowing Down: Reflections from Vanuatu
Today we found these beautiful yellowtail clownfish living in a large sea anemone. They swam up to check us out and came right up to the underwater camera. Their anemone was far from shore, so I’m guessing they haven’t seen …
When Valentine’s Day Feels Complicated: Growing Up Without Healthy Love
If you didn’t grow up seeing healthy love… Valentine’s Day can feel complicated. You might long for closeness and fear it at the same time. You might accept crumbs because chaos feels familiar. But you are allowed to learn a …
Healing Your Mind Doesn’t Mean Thinking Positive Thoughts
Healing your mind doesn’t mean thinking “positive thoughts.” It means understanding why certain thoughts appear in the first place. It means noticing which ones come from fear, which come from habit, and which come from parts of you that learned …