When people are uncomfortable with your emotional vulnerability it is great to get curious. What is their relationship with their own emotions? How were emotions dealt with in their family of origin? What did they learn in their family about …
9 Simple Tips To Manage Your Stress
What do you do to self-soothe when you are stressed? Do you pick up a drink? Do you find yourself in front of the cupboard tucking into a whole packet of dark chocolate McVities Digestives (for the Brits reading this)? …
All About Stress
Some information to help us better understand stress and chronic stress and the physical impact. Here are some great reasons to be managing our stress Have a wonderful, stress-free day. Much love, Jen
Birth Order Personalities
Have you ever wondered how your siblings can be so utterly different to you? One reason can be birth order and different children in the family using different strategies to get attention and love from your parents. Psychologist Walter Toman …
What We Imagine Growth To Be:
Have you ever been in the trap of imagining that when you have grown enough, everything in your life will be ‘perfect’? You will have the ‘perfect’ job, one that your sense of purpose is aligned with, and you will …
When We Are Driven By Obligation Not Values
I grew up in a pretty obligation free zone. Although we had clear rules about behaviour and other things, there wasn’t a general feeling of obligation. No, “you need to call your mother” or “you need to look after us …
Signs Of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens for me, I know it is a big shout out …
When We Excpect To Only Feel Happiness, We Set Ourselves Up To Fail.
Experiencing emotions is part of being human. When we expect to only feel the ‘positive’ emotions we set ourselves up to fail. Part of the work is to find a place of comfort with all of our emotions. It’s a …
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
In 1943 Maslow presented his ‘Hierarchy of Needs’, a model of how humans are motivated. He suggested that we move our psyche and our whole being towards something that he called ‘self-actualisation’ (Maslow, A. A Theory of Human Motivation, 1943). …
When We Compare Ourselves To Others We Can Inadvertently
Let’s first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, hopeful, as though anything is possible. When we are comparing ourselves to someone, there is a one up, …