Attempting to get all our needs met through one person is often a subconscious pattern. We all have the need to be loved, and accepted, for play, for trust and connection. Some of these needs can only be met interpersonally, …
Category: Wellness
Key Childhood Needs
When core needs go unmet, unhealthy coping mechanisms result. This is natural because a child needs to keep themselves safe and over time, learns how to get their needs met, however they can. For many people, having needs at all …
Your Role in the Therapeutic Process
Depending on what kind of therapist you are working with, will depend on the tools that are passed on. Some you will resonate with deeply and others, not so much. It is good to try on whatever you are given, …
Your Role in the Therapeutic Process
If you know there is something big you want to share, but you don’t feel safe in the first meeting, that is okay and is understandable and healthy. You could let your therapist know that there is something important to …
Therapy Can Be Painful
Hard truth – therapy is often uncomfortable. It is also empowering. It is empowering to see ourselves reflected back to us with compassion we may not be able to hold for ourselves. It is empowering to get another perspective on …
Stigma Surrounding Therapy
What words of encouragement would you offer someone thinking of going to therapy and getting some help?
Complex Trauma
I would love to re-name personality disorders and call them personality adaptations, because that is what many of them are, and it stands to reason that the worse the trauma, the more extreme the adaptations. If any of this speaks …
Core Childhood Needs
When attuned parents raise children, they develop a healthy attachment style of relating in intimate relationships. When a child’s needs are not met, the child will develop ‘early maladaptive schemas’ (EMS). This term is used in Schema Therapy, one of …
Healing Affirmations to Support Yourself After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
Unlocking TRUE Self-Awareness
True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and perhaps feel unable to change. This is why the practice of a form of COMPASSIONATE self-awareness is so important. The practice …