All attachment styles are the child’s response to the behaviour of the mother (or primary caregiver). The child’s brain is being wired in certain directions regarding intimate relationships, based on the primary relationship; with the mother. There can be a …
Category: Wellness
Secure Attachment – A Key to Having a Rewarding Relationship
When a child is securely attached, the child’s emotions are accurately reflected and validated by the primary caregiver (usually the mother). The mother is loving, supportive, attentive, understanding and able to help regulate the child’s emotions and help the world …
What Is Your Attachment Style?
Up until the age of two our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary care giver (usually the mother) we are being wired …
Why Attachment Matters
As children we are like sponges. Literally, our brain grows to 80% of its adult size by the time we are two! At times the neurons are growing at a rate of 250,000 every minute! The neurological pathways that will …
Research Proves Benefits of Gratitude
The word gratitude comes from the Latin gratia, meaning grace, or gratefulness. Its root is linked to kindness, beauty and giving (Emmons & Shelton, 2002). When I feel grateful, I can connect with the feeling of being more beautiful. I …
Signs of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens for me, I know it is a big shout out …
Self-Actualisation and Transcendence
Whenever there is change, and there has been a lot of that in the last few months, there is re-birth. In the form of Western psychotherapy that I subscribe to, we are moving our psyche and our whole being towards …
Want More Self-Confidence?
A few months ago we did a survey of our female friends to find out whether they would like more self-confidence or courage. The results were 50 / 50. Everyone had a strong pull to one or the other, feeling …
Healing Trauma
Trauma comes from the Greek word for wound, relating to physical injury (1) . It wasn’t until the late 19th century that the word trauma became associated with psychological rather than physical harm. Austrian psychologist, Sigmund Freud was one of …