Category: Relationships

It is time to stop expecting people to show up for you who don’t have the capacity to do it? Have you ever wasted time expecting people to show up for you who don’t have the capacity to do it? It’s like waiting for the sky to rain candy. No matter how much you love the sky, it simply doesn’t have the capacity to rain candy. You can stand there and wait and wait, but you are setting yourself up to be let down.

Is It Time To Stop Expecting People to Show-Up for You Who Don’t Have The Capacity To Do It?

April 13, 2021

Tough question: When we are feeling let down by someone, ask yourself this question, ‘do they have the capacity to show up for me in the way I need?’  If the answer is ‘no’, they can’t show up for me …

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1 - What is Reparenting? 2 - Reparenting is the process of learning to meet your authentic needs as an adult. 3 - We learn how to get our needs met by our primary caregiver. If that person was misattuned and our needs were not met or was overly critical or abusive, or that person could not care for themselves effectively. We may not learn to recognise our needs or expect to have them met by ourselves or anyone else. 4 - Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful to Me: I often abandon myself by putting others needs first I struggle to put in place healthy boundaries that protect my energy I have angry outbursts that feel like tantrums I struggle to keep promises to myself and others I have a deep sense of not being good enough Most of my relationships are co-dependent and dysfunctional I look outside myself for validation and acceptance I struggle with love addiction or other types of addictions 5 - We have the opportunity to learn how to: Validate our reality Be kind to ourselves rather than critical Say 'no' when we need to Comfort ourselves in a healthy way when we are feeling a strong emotion Tune into our authentic need at any moment

What is Reparenting?

April 8, 2021

Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or …

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Your father disapproved of you or your behaviour Your father didn't have any time for you You felt scared of your father Your father withheld love, food, or other essentials as punishment Your father was emotionally or physically absent You find it difficult to trust men Your father was highly critical of you You often feel abandoned You don't go to your father with personal problems You feel you need to be perfect to please him

10 Signs You Have A Father Wound

April 3, 2021

Much of the literature in mental health and psychology has focused on the mother and the mother’s attachment. But what about our fathers? As children, we need a healthy father figure. It doesn’t have to be a biological father, it …

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Your mother was emotionally unavailable for you Your mother was not attuned to your needs Your mother was abusive in any way Your mother used guilt to control you You would never go to your mother with a personal problem You never felt that you were enough for your mother You thought you had to be perfect to please your mother You weren't allowed to express negative emotions Your mother looked to you for emotional support You were parentified by your mother Your mother had untreated mental health or addiction issues Your mother was competitive with you

12 Signs You Have A Mother Wound

April 3, 2021

Many of us spend years in confusion, anger and grief about the mother relationship, trying to make sense of what happened. ⁣ The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about …

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I Can't Change My Attachment Style, Can I? Yes, you can.

I Can’t Change My Attachment Style, Can I?

April 3, 2021

Up until the age of two, our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary caregiver (usually the mother), we are being wired for …

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s Your Attachment Style Affecting Your Relationships?

Is Your Attachment Style Affecting Your Relationships?

April 3, 2021

Your attachment style influences all of your intimate relationships. Knowing if you are secure or insecure in your attachment can help you to understand some of your behaviour when you are in relationships. Know that your attachment style CAN be …

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