The opportunity here is to give the younger self the soothing she so desperately wanted and deserved. I have been doing Inner Child and ‘parts’ work for over 17 years with myself and others and found it to be one …
Category: Relationships
Abandonment Fear Part 2
In this live session, I cover:????Exactly what abandonment fear is????Where it comes from????How it related to Anxious Attachment????How to approach this fear in ourselves????How it pushes us to attach too quickly????Why we attract unavailable partners????What to look for in relationships????What …
Abandonment Fear Might Cause us to:
Abandonment fear is real, and it makes sense. When we have experienced loss as a child in the form of: Neglect Not receiving the love and nurturance we needed Loss of a parent, grandparent, sibling or pet Loss of friends …
12 Signs You Have a Mother Wound
Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to understand what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about how …
Attachment Trauma
How’s this for coincidence. About two months ago, I started to create the outline for my book around healing attachment wounds focusing on somatic practices, and The Embody Lab announced a Certificate in Somatic Attachment Therapy! When I saw it, …
10 Ways the Fawn Response Shows Up in Relationships
The fawn response is a trauma response. It is a protective reaction to an unsafe situation, usually in our childhood. As adults, the fawn response shows up in relationships in different ways: I’ll say anything to keep the peace. I …
What To Say If You Made A Mistake Or Regret How You Behaved.
We all make mistakes. The magic is in the repair. Sometimes it is hard to find the words to start. I hope you find these helpful. Love to all, Jen
Cycle Breakers Are Often The Black Sheep of The Family
Cycle breakers are often the black sheep of the family because they choose to focus on breaking toxic patterns internally and externally. It can be lonely, know that you are not alone and it IS worth it. You are busy …
The Most Beautiful Words on Earth
I think sometimes we can hear the words ‘I love you’ so often that they start to lose their true meaning. I do wonder about languages that have more nuanced words for ‘love’ if this would increase the meaningfulness in …
Real Validation
It is so easy to think we have heard our partner, when in fact we have been busy defending our position. We are often afraid that if we see things from their perspective, in a FELT way, we will not …