The Inner Child work is one of the most effective ways I know to improve self-regulation, change your critical inner dialogue, cultivate more self-compassion and improve your relationships. The best part about doing this work is that we learn to …
Category: Psychotherapy
Inner Child Tantrums
When I am triggered, I know the reaction is coming from an unhealed, younger part of myself. Let me give you an example. Let’s imagine that your mother left without any forewarning when you were seven years old. She was …
Learning to Validate Your Needs
You might find yourself being proud of your lack of needs. In the past, it has kept you safe. You have learned to rely on yourself to meet your own needs. This can create independent and highly capable people. But …
Acting Out
When you feel yourself about to ‘act out’ can you pause? Can you hold the tension and discomfort in your body and be curious about what is happening for you. Can you think, “wow! I am feeling so much anger …
What is the inner child?
Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is. They see something new and want to explore …
10 Research-Based Questions To Help You Know If Your Relationship Has A Future.
According to Psychologist Gary W. Lewandowski’s research, going through these questions and answering ‘yes’ or ‘no’ will give you some insight into the potential longevity of your relationship. The more questions you answer ‘yes’ to, the more likely it is …
10 Things To Say Instead Of Ghosting Someone
Ghosting hurts. A poll on this Instagram account into how ghosting made people feel came up with a myriad of reasons, with the most common being ‘confused’. Ghosting leaves the person being ghosted with a lack of clarity and in …
10 Questions To Ask Yourself After Being Ghosted
Here we can swap the word ‘ghosted’ for ‘triggered’. It is natural to feel triggered when you have been ghosted. Most people who are ghosted report feeling left with a lack of closure. They have gone, and we are left …
Why We Sabotage Relationships
Knowing your attachment style might give you a lot of insight into why you sabotage relationships. In this video, I explain why you might sabotage your relationship and how you might do it as well as the push / pull …
7 Things To Do When You Have Been Ghosted
For me, the interesting thing about ghosting is what it brings up for you. It can take a moment to take attention off the person who has done the ghosting and be with self. It is often easier to focus …