Being a therapist it is important to do my own work. Part of that for me is delving into the unconscious and to do that in the most effective way, I need to remove myself from daily life and enter …
Category: Healing
I’m Anxious, and My partner is Avoidantly Attached. Will it Ever Work?
The opportunity here is for deep healing for both of you. The risk is the reenactment of the original wounds that created your attachment style in the first place. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if you are serious about …
Intergenerational Attachment Styles
A short clip from last week’s Insta LIVE about Avoidant Attachment. How different styles like different amounts of relational distance and how this is transmitted intergenerationally.
7 Powerful Questions for the Avoidantly Attached
If you are avoidant and ready to challenge yourself – there are the questions to be asking. Remember that for avoidant people, you have learned NOT to reach out for support. Nobody has been there to hold you in the …
5 Ways to Increase Intimacy with your Avoidantly Attached Partner
If you resonate with this attachment style, feel free to send a link to this post to your partner. The key with the avoidantly attached is to remember that when they pull back, they are often just as upset as …
Understanding your Avoidantly Attached Partner
They may expect their partner to ‘grow up’ if they express their needs or emotions, thus pushing the other person away. This is their subconscious drive to protect themselves from re-experiencing the pain of the relationship with their primary caregiver. …
Why Are We So Afraid Of Altered States of Consciousness?
I feel sad that altered states of consciousness are not more accepted and utilised in our culture, that their potential to create deep and lasting healing and change is not more embedded in our culture. As an adult, I have …
Responsiveness is a Love Language
When our partners are not responsive, it can feel like we are playing tennis with no one hitting the ball back. It quickly gets lonely. If this is happening in your relationship, now is the time to get curious about …
Anxiously Attached People Appreciate Responsiveness
Responsiveness is a subtle form of communication and is a love language. When you respond to me reaching out for connection, the connection is validated, and I feel SAFE. It might be the smile you give me, in response to …