Shame & Disconnection

In Brene Brown’s research, she identified twelve core areas where people feel shame:

  • Appearance and body image
  • Money and work
  • Motherhood/Fatherhood
  • Family
  • Parenting
  • Mental and physical health
  • Addiction
  • Sex
  • Aging
  • Religion
  • Surviving Trauma
  • Being stereotyped or labelled 

Shame is often hidden…for different people. Shame hides in various places:

  • Shame is being bankrupt
  • Shame is losing my job
  • Shame is being infertile
  • Shame is shouting at my kids
  • Shame is being 15 kilos overweight
  • Shame is being on antidepressants

Shame is difficult to talk about for obvious reasons…we feel shame about the topic we are discussing. Over the next few days, I will share research-based ideas to diffuse shame effectively.

Reference: Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly. Penguin Books: UK.