Attachment styles exist on a spectrum. You can be more or less anxious or more or less avoidant in your attachment style. About 80% of distressed couples who go to couple therapy are in the anxious/avoidant dynamic. Have you ever …
Tag: Relationships
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
If attachment anxiety resonates with you, let me know in the comments. When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of …
Recording for my Book, Heal Your Anxious Attachment
A day in the studio recording 20 pages of practices for my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”, landing 1st Feb 2024. When I record the practices, I do them at the same time. It helps to anchor the energy …
Anxious Adaptation
When you find yourself in the middle of a protest behaviour, acting out, but desperately trying to form some kind of connection, know that your behaviour makes sense when put in context. There are younger parts of you that are …
The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic – Can it work?
This is one of the main dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it? We also tackle the big question: …
9 Signs You Grew Up Chronically Lonely
Ongoing loneliness as a child impacts us in many different ways as adults. How has this impacted you? Let me know in the comments.
5 Tips for the 5 Stages of a Relationship
One common myth about great relationships is that there are no arguments or disagreements. The Gottman’s, fantastic relationship experts who have done lots of research in this area, disagree. It is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship; the issue …
Couples and Isolation
There has never been so much pressure placed on the couple. We are supposed to be one another’s confidant, best friend, lover, the person we share all our chores with, work out our finances with, and share child rearing with. …
D Schwartz Quote
This is how you can make a relationship conscious. When you use the pain, you trigger one another as a guide inward. Rather than blame each other, you meet your pain with curiosity. You turn inward and get curious about …