Children are naturally creative. They have to be creative to survive in the world and learn about the world. They hear a new noise and want to find out what it is, see something new, and explore its taste, feel …
Tag: inner child work
Recognising The Father Wound
The father wound is passed down through family lines. It comes about because of the father’s unhealed trauma and inner wounds. Without healing, these wounds are passed to his children. All children are hard-wired for love. Children yearn for the …
How Do I Build Self-Trust?
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
Regression into Childhood States
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
5 Things to Ground you In Reality in your Relationship
If you are wondering if you are In Limmerence, it could be time to have a reality check. Are they honest? Are they transparent? Do they hold themselves accountable? Do they live morally? Are your values aligned? Do you feel …
Working with Limerence
When we work with our inner child, we are working with our patterns around limerence. Know that you have got this! If you want to know more about Inner Child or ‘parts work’, check out the ‘Heal Your Inner Child’ …
Reparenting
That voice is inside you. It IS you; it is the loving parent you can be to your inner child. Remember my rule: If you wouldn’t say it to a real son or daughter, don’t say it to yourself. This …
We All Want To Parent Our Children In A Way That Feels Good
I love that this community has so many parents trying their very best. And I hear a lot of self-criticism and self-doubt as we try to meet our own or society’s parenting expectations. One of the most significant changes I …
Breaking the Shame Cycle
Shame is often transmitted through family lines. Parents use shame-based parenting, the children grow up with shame and use shame-based parenting, and the pattern is repeated. Shame is something that comes up in therapy regularly. One of the most powerful …