Part of the re-parenting process is the process of shifting our self-talk.
I like to imagine that whenever I think something in my head, I am talking to myself and my inner child. I have a rule: If I wouldn’t say it to my physical son or daughter, I don’t think it about myself in my head.
For me, I find my thoughts are powerful. If I constantly think negatively about myself, I quickly feel energetically low. When I shift out of it, even if it feels fake initially, things change quickly.
I know what it is like to hear the constant stream of inner criticism going on and on in your head. Maybe you learnt that tone from one of your parents. Perhaps you don’t know where it came from. But it goes on and on. Does anyone know what I am talking about?
Our inner child deserves to hear a kinder message. They need to know they ARE loveable, safe and courageous. They need to be validated to know they have always done their best. They need all of those messages from YOU.
The more of these messages they hear from you, the more they will trust you as their loving parent. As you build the inner well of self-love and self-acceptance, the tendency to do anything to be loved and accepted by others reduces. You feel stronger internally, more solid somehow and sure of yourself. I have seen it time and time again.
Maybe highlight some of these messages that resonate with YOUR inner child and repeat them a few times a day.
For this week, I will work with ‘You didn’t deserve what happened to you’. Let me know which ones you choose and how you go.