What spoken and unspoken rules did you grow up with that determined your acceptability and sense of belonging? Here are a few of mine: As a child, if we follow the family rules, we are accepted and loved, and there …
Tag: Cycle breaker
What a ‘No’ Feels Like In Your Body
A few years ago, I watched my kids as toddlers start to distinguish between the bodily felt sense of ‘I’m hungry, and I’m sleepy’. It made me smile to see my daughter fast asleep with a sandwich literally hanging out …
I’m Trying To Make Them Understand
Have you ever found yourself repeating yourself and trying to say the same thing in a hundred different ways to be understood? I know I have.
How To Spot Attracting Unavailable Men
Being in a cycle of attracting avoidant or unavailable people is painful. Over time, it affects your self-esteem and can make you feel like you are going crazy. In this episode, Jen gives you three steps on how to break …
Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet ANOTHER unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Maybe he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his work, mother or …
Falling For Someone’s Potential
When you are with someone because you see their potential, you are busy working on a project. Not accepting them for who they are. If who they are is not what you are looking for, then why are you still …
Six Things You Need to Know About ‘Parts’ From an IFS Perspective
Have you wondered what this talk is about ‘parts’ in the therapy world? If you have, this is the episode for you. In this episode, you will learn six things you need to know about ‘parts’. IFS is especially helpful …
When We Feel Fear in a Relationship, We Have Two Ways to Deal With It.
When you bring curiosity into your conversation, everything changes. It can snap you out of old patterns and into something completely new. If you need help with this, seeing a therapist can be a fantastic start.
Are We Well-Suited?
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, how could that area be energised somehow? How could you meet in that area differently? What experiments could you do …
5 Tips for When You Feel New Relationship Anxiety
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxious when we become vulnerable because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. Let …