When you are with someone because you see their potential, you are busy working on a project. Not accepting them for who they are. If who they are is not what you are looking for, then why are you still …
Tag: Cycle breaker
Six Things You Need to Know About ‘Parts’ From an IFS Perspective
Have you wondered what this talk is about ‘parts’ in the therapy world? If you have, this is the episode for you. In this episode, you will learn six things you need to know about ‘parts’. IFS is especially helpful …
When We Feel Fear in a Relationship, We Have Two Ways to Deal With It.
When you bring curiosity into your conversation, everything changes. It can snap you out of old patterns and into something completely new. If you need help with this, seeing a therapist can be a fantastic start.
Are We Well-Suited?
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, how could that area be energised somehow? How could you meet in that area differently? What experiments could you do …
5 Tips for When You Feel New Relationship Anxiety
Moving into a new relationship is all about stepping into vulnerability. We often feel anxious when we become vulnerable because we risk being hurt. I hope these tips will be helpful for those of you experiencing new relationship anxiety. Let …
The Avoidant Partner
When in conflict, it’s common for people with an avoidant adaptation to want to get away, to shut down and feel confused. This is often super frustrating for the other person who doesn’t understand what’s happening. Inside, the avoidant partner …
Whenever You Feel Desperate To Be Chosen, It’s a Deep Calling To Choose Yourself
Big shout out to Tory Eletto @nytherapist – she’s one of the therapists I’ve been following from the beginning, and I LOVE her work. Like – every post! So, how do you choose yourself? Like Dr Richard Schwartz (founder of …
Blaming Partner Patterns
When you have an anxious adaptation in relationships, conflict signals danger to the nervous system. When this happens, your nervous system fills with energy and prepares you for fight or flight. This is super helpful if a tiger is chasing …
Avoidant Experiences
What is Avoidant Attachment? Avoidant attachment refers to a tendency to avoid emotional closeness and dependency on others. Those with this attachment style may have developed self-reliance as a defence mechanism, often suppressing their need for connection. This can make …
Attachment Needs
I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This cycle is frustrating and usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can identify it in …