grew up camping in the UK. We had one of those massive bright orange canvas tents that leaked if you touched it when it was raining, which it did quite a bit in the UK, even in the summer. They …
Tag: Cycle breaker
Breaking the Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle
Do you find yourself chasing while your partner pulls away? Or perhaps you’re the one retreating when emotions feel overwhelming? This pattern—the Pursuer-Withdrawer Cycle—is one of the most common relationship dynamics keeping couples stuck and disconnected. Healing begins with awareness. …
What Is Inner Child Work?
Inner Child work is part of many research-based psychotherapeutic models, including Transactional Analysis, internal family systems, EMDR, Gestalt Therapy, schema therapy and narrative therapy. The reason why it is part of so many therapies is that it WORKS. We all …
Working with Your Inner Child
Over the years, I have spent time getting to know all the parts of my inner child at many different ages. Each age holds new gems of self-discovery and power that have been locked away. What lights up your …
What is the inner child?
Children are born explorers. Their creativity isn’t just for fun—it’s how they make sense of the world. Every new sound, texture, and experience sparks curiosity. They reach, taste, listen, and play their way through life, learning as they go. But …
The Strengths of Your Ancestors
When we look back at our ancestors, we can often find surprising, hidden strengths and things that connect us to our sense of belonging in the world. Ever since I was little, I have been desperate to see the …
Protest Behaviours and IFS
When you learn to work with your parts instead of against them, you stop reacting out of fear and start responding from your calm, confident Self. Healing takes time, but every moment of self-awareness moves you forward. To hear more …
When You Protest – For The Anxiously Attached
Have you ever judged yourself for these reactions? I know I have.
Ever Second Guess Your Self
Here’s a simple trick to find clarity: For example, if your best friend was burnt out, would you encourage them to take on more or to rest? This perspective works because we often show more compassion to others than to …
Unsure Where Your Boundary Should Be?
________ You deserve the same care you would give others. Try it next time you’re stuck. Love, Jen