Running from the pain won’t stop the pattern from repeating itself. Your subconscious is trying desperately to heal; it presents you with situation after situation until you pause and get curious. Not in a self-punishing way but in a compassionate, …
Tag: Cycle breaker
You Don’t Have To Feel Broken To See A Therapist
One of the most potent times to visit a therapist is when I am aware of repeating cycles in my life. My therapist helps me clarify what impulses me to behave in certain ways and where those impulses have come …
How to Reconnect After An Argument
We all know those uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument's energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
Healing Dissociation Part 2
Healing Dissociation Part 2 Dissociation is often a misunderstood and feared part of the system. Healing in a system with a big dissociated part means that we need to start with safety. Your life needs a foundation of current safety …
Dissociation pt 9: How We Protect Our Selves
Exploring how we protect ourselves in the face of overwhelming or scary situations is essential. Naturally, we might react by freezing, fleeing, fighting, submitting, or seeking attachment.
Dissociation pt 8; Resuming Normal Life
Resuming normal life post-trauma can be a vital step in healing, grounding us back in our daily routines and connections. However, when trauma is ongoing or deeply distressing, our psyche might create a protective layer, telling us, "It wasn't that …
Children Need Protection
As a trauma therapist, I can’t overemphasise how important protection is for our children. If you know your threat detector is too sensitive or not sensitive enough, check in with someone you trust. Let me know what you think in …