Creating healthy boundaries in your relationships IS something that can be learned as an adult. As adults, even people who grew up with healthy boundaries will need to enforce those boundaries as they encounter different people with different boundary styles. …
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Committing to Your Boundaries
So often, nobody knows about your small wins. If you are like me, you might tend to minimise your successes with something like, “Well, I am only not reading them now after 8.30 pm. Most people already do that, so …
Examples of Healthy Personal Boundaries
Boundaries with yourself refer to the idea of drawing a line between what is okay for you and what is not okay. Sometimes we don’t know where the boundary needs to be until we cross it, and we feel angry …
Nurturing Yourself as a Highly Sensitive Person
A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), as described by Elaine Aron in her book “The Highly Sensitive Person”, is someone who is more sensitive to subtleties of the environment, has a more sensitive nervous system and more active insula (the part …
The Importance of Boundaries as a Highly Sensitive Person
Boundaries are a vital part of your self-care as a highly sensitive person. Having boundaries around what you do often involves having to say ‘no’ to some things. This can sound like: I have been feeling pretty tired; lately, I …
Why You Find Caregiving Exhausting as a Parentified Child
As a parentified child, one of the ways you received love and acceptance was through caring for your siblings and/or parents. This may have been expressed as a compulsion as an adult, which may have contributed to moving naturally into …
Regression into Childhood States
Our core childhood needs are: Attachment Freedom to be yourself and to have your emotions and needs validated Appropriate limits so you learn self-control Independence, competence and self-identity Play When triggered by one of these needs not being met, you …
11 Ways to Support Yourself as a ‘Cycle Breaker’
A cycle breaker in a family consciously chooses to develop different ways of communicating, interacting, living and thinking to their family of origin. This can start at a very young age, knowing early that you just think differently, or are …
Tips to Handle Gaslighting at Work
Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it.The behaviour is easier to manage if other people in the office see what is happening. It is much more difficult when one person is singled out by …