As we grow older, it is natural that boundaries with our parents shift. As a 3-year-old, we will need someone to come with us to the bathroom, but not as a 12-year-old. As we move into the teenage years, it …
Tag: Boundaries
![What Respecting Boundaries Might Sound Like “I hear what you are saying, and I respect your decision” “Yes, no problem” “You are right, I shouldn’t have done that” “I can work with that” “I respect that” “I am struggling with that boundary, but I respect it” “I am happy to give you space” “Yes, sorry if I have overstepped the mark in the past” “I hear how you have been feeling and I won’t do that anymore”](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/04_12_2022_BLUE_-What-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
What Respecting Boundaries Might Sound Like
In many intimate relationships, especially with friends and partners, we get used to them doing certain things and playing certain roles in our lives. It can be difficult at first when those people decide they need to stop doing those …
![Reasons You Might Be Struggling to Set Boundaries with Family You keep asking for help from them They believe you lack the capacity to make good choices for yourself Your parents have not made the shift from treating you as a child, to treating you as an adult You feel you owe them something that compromises your boundaries Your family has a history of unclear boundaries Someone in the family needs your help, and is pushing your boundaries You don’t want to hurt your family Speaking up is seen as rude in your family You live with your parents, so you find it more difficult to maintain boundaries](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/02_12_2022_BLUE_-Why-You-Might-Have-Difficulties-Setting-Family-Boundaries-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Why You Might Have Difficulties Setting Family Boundaries
Boundaries are an act of self-love and are part of healthy self-care. As we grow older, it is natural that we need different boundaries with our family to those that were suitable as a child. This means that even in …
![Skilled and Unskilled Boundary Setting](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/01_12_2022_REEL_web-tile_Skilled-and-Unskilled-Boundary-Setting-1080-×-1080-px-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Skilled and Unskilled Boundary Setting
Think about the difference between: “You are late again, you don’t care about me, it is so disrespectful” and “I feel disrespected and sad when you are late to meet me, and I need you to call and let me …
![Examples of Self-Talk to Support Your Boundaries](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/30_11_2022_BLUE_-Examples-of-Self-Talk-to-Support-Your-Boundaries--scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Examples of Self-Talk to Support Your Boundaries
Boundaries are a form of self-care and self-love. Once you have set a boundary, the struggle can be maintaining it. Maintaining a boundary takes strength and self-trust. I find if I am not sure about the boundary I have set, …
![Tips for Setting and Maintaining Boundaries](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/29_11_2022_CREAM_-Tips-for-Setting-and-Maintaining-Boundaries1-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Tips for Setting and Maintaining Boundaries
Boundaries are part of self-care. They are an expression of love and protection from ourselves, to ourselves. I find that the boundaries I struggle to maintain are the ones that for different reasons, other people don’t like. I find the …
![Boundaries and mental health](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/1-7-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Boundaries & Mental Health
Let me say it again – you are not responsible for someone else’s mental health. To be clear, I am not talking about abuse. If you are verbally, physically, mentally or emotionally abusive, then you ARE responsible. If you are …
![When we have ‘too much empathy’ it is usually a boundary issue, not an empathy issue.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/04_10_2022_CREAM_-Empathetic-Boundaries-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Empathetic Boundaries
I hear a lot of people in my clinic feel that they are too empathetic. They can feel the other person’s discomfort or pain and just want it to go away. This is the result of a high level of …
![Closed minded people](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/20_09_2022_REEL_-Web-tile-How-to-Interact-with-Closed-Minded-People-1080-×-1080-px-copy-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
How to Interact with Closed-Minded People
I don’t really like the term ‘closed-minded people’ because I think some of the people we label as ‘closed-minded’ just have a different point of view to us.