Knowing How To Pause During a Conflict

Storming out during an argument is not a great way to take a break. Maybe you return to the argument, but more often than not there is still tension in the air. Maybe you become passive-aggressive with one another and the repercussions last for weeks. There is no closure.

Finding the words to take a break in the heat of the moment can be difficult. Here are a few guidelines for taking a break:

  1. Use ‘I” statements. “I am feeling ____________”. “ I need to take a break”
  2. Set a time limit to return to the conversation “I need an hour to clear my head and calm down” (Not longer than 24 hours).

Remember to be kind to yourself during conflict. Many of us havent been taught to do it well. 

Love, Jen