There are many reasons people avoid being assertive. I find the two biggest reasons are: ‘The other person will be upset’ (conflict avoidance) and ‘I have no idea how to do it’. Let’s take ‘The other person will be …
Tag: Boundaries
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Is It a Boundary or an Empathy Issue?
When you think about having had too much empathy in the past, has it really been a boundary issue? Let me know in the comments.
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Deserting Yourself During an Argument
Sometimes it just feels easier to let the other person have their way. Maybe to keep the peace and avoid conflict, perhaps because they feel more strongly than you about the topic than you, or maybe they are implying they …
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The 5 Stages of a relationship
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
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Intention Setting for the Holiday Season
It is so easy to get swept up in the spending, the drinks, and the food. Have you paused to contemplate what you would like for this holiday season? If you could have a holiday season and everyone in the …
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Key Components for Boundary Setting with In-Laws
This is a personal one…for me, point 3, ‘manage your expectations’ was a huge learning with my in-laws. I grew up with basically six people in my family; my mum, dad, sister, nan, and grandad (my mother’s parents), and we …
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Tips for Boundary Setting with In-Laws
I have received many DMs about the struggle to merge two different families with differing expectations, norms, and values. The critical thing to remember with in-laws is to have a united front with your partner. This is where I see …
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Healthy Boundaries at Work
Like boundaries with family, boundaries at work can be incredibly tricky, especially if you have a boss pushing you to do more when you are already at capacity. With work, the ultimate threat is that you will be fired, which …
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Setting Boundaries when Dating
Dating boundaries are important because they reflect the kinds of boundaries we have in other parts of our lives. If our boundaries are non-existent in the beginning, it can be challenging to reinstate them later on. Dating boundaries can be …
![Steps for Successful Boundary Setting How to Set Boundaries Successfully Start by getting clear about what boundary you want in place, why you want that boundary, how not having it makes you feel and when you do have it, how it will make you feel. Take a moment to consider the reason they have for doing what they are doing. Be specific about your request, not too vague. Be clear, compassionate, and mindful of your tone as you explain the need for your boundary. Don’t over-explain. Remember that you are allowed to have boundaries, and healthy boundaries will result in more fulfilling relationships. It is normal for boundaries with parents to change as you get older.](https://i0.wp.com/cdn1.jennynurick.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/07_12_2022_CREAM_-Steps-scaled.jpg?fit=650%2C650&ssl=1)
Steps for Successful Boundary Setting
Like any form of self-care that we have not grown up with, we have to learn how to do it at some time. There is no better time than now. Think of strengthening your boundaries as a radical act of …