So often, nobody knows about your small wins. If you are like me, you might tend to minimise your successes with something like, “Well, I am only not reading them now after 8.30 pm. Most people already do that, so it is not a big deal”. In this one thought I am invalidating what I have achieved. This is the moment to step into my loving inner parent persona and say, “Well done, Jen! I am so proud of you for managing not to check emails after 8.30 pm! I know you were tempted a few times, and it is difficult with everything going on at work. To celebrate, we will take a LONG bath and listen to your favourite music”.
Boundaries are a form of self-love.