For me, right now, it is the presence of my husband on his laptop. It is the felt sense of my house all around me. It is the pillows supporting my back. What allows you to feel ‘safe enough’ right …
Tag: attachment theory
Attachment Styles and Relational Distance
Attachment styles exist on a spectrum. You can be more or less anxious or more or less avoidant in your attachment style. About 80% of distressed couples who go to couple therapy are in the anxious/avoidant dynamic. Have you ever …
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
If attachment anxiety resonates with you, let me know in the comments. When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of …
Recording for my Book, Heal Your Anxious Attachment
A day in the studio recording 20 pages of practices for my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”, landing 1st Feb 2024. When I record the practices, I do them at the same time. It helps to anchor the energy …
A Compassionate Quote from Ariella Schwartz
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Safe Vs Authentic
What spoken and unspoken rules did you grow up with that determined your acceptability and sense of belonging? Here are a few of mine: As a child, if we follow the family rules, we are accepted and loved, and there …
The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic – Can it work?
This is one of the main dynamics that brings couples into therapy. It is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle. So, what exactly is the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle, how does it work, and how do we perpetuate it? We also tackle the big question: …
How To Spot Attracting Unavailable Men
Being in a cycle of attracting avoidant or unavailable people is painful. Over time, it affects your self-esteem and can make you feel like you are going crazy. In this episode, Jen gives you three steps on how to break …
Six Reasons You Are Attracted to Avoidant or Unavailable Men
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet ANOTHER unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Maybe he is dating you, but he seems to be married to his work, mother or …
Disorganised Attachment Explained
In this episode, you will learn everything you need to know about the disorganised attachment style, including: Available on Apple Podcast and Spotify