Anxious attachment is a healthy adaptation. All behaviour, when viewed through the lens of your history, makes sense. Always. As children, when met with inconsistency in our caregivers are faced with two choices. Either stay close to the carer and …
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Episode 23: 7 Tips for Dating For The Anxiously Attached
When you are anxiously attached, the dating phase of a relationship can be painful, triggering and confusing. It is often difficult to know if your gut feelings of anxiety are real and valid, or if it is your anxious attachment …
Conflict in Relationships
FREE Track YOUR negative Cycle. I have a FREE resource to help you get awareness of your negative cycle. This frustrating cycle usually makes you both feel more disconnected than ever. Learning what your negative cycle is so you can …
Heal Your Anxious Attachment: Pre Order Now
The book is finished after a year of writing it. The cover is designed, the typesetting has been done, and I have the final galley (as they say in publishing). So what’s next? Take it to India to receive the …
How to Create Distance In A Family Relationship
It’s okay to need more space in a family relationship. Let me say it again – It’s okay to need more space in a relationship. When you have grown up taking care of others emotionally or being afraid of their …
Safe Enough
For me, right now, it is the presence of my husband on his laptop. It is the felt sense of my house all around me. It is the pillows supporting my back. What allows you to feel ‘safe enough’ right …
Attachment Styles and Relational Distance
Attachment styles exist on a spectrum. You can be more or less anxious or more or less avoidant in your attachment style. About 80% of distressed couples who go to couple therapy are in the anxious/avoidant dynamic. Have you ever …
Anxious Attachment and People Pleasing
If attachment anxiety resonates with you, let me know in the comments. When attachment anxiety takes hold, the instinct to people please and prioritize the needs of others over your own can take over. This behavior is understandable because of …
Recording for my Book, Heal Your Anxious Attachment
A day in the studio recording 20 pages of practices for my upcoming book “Heal Your Anxious Attachment”, landing 1st Feb 2024. When I record the practices, I do them at the same time. It helps to anchor the energy …
A Compassionate Quote from Ariella Schwartz
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