I would love to re-name personality disorders and call them personality adaptations, because that is what many of them are, and it stands to reason that the worse the trauma, the more extreme the adaptations. If any of this speaks …
Core Childhood Needs
When attuned parents raise children, they develop a healthy attachment style of relating in intimate relationships. When a child’s needs are not met, the child will develop ‘early maladaptive schemas’ (EMS). This term is used in Schema Therapy, one of …
Healing Affirmations to Support Yourself After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
Unlocking TRUE Self-Awareness
True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and perhaps feel unable to change. This is why the practice of a form of COMPASSIONATE self-awareness is so important. The practice …
What is Self-Acceptance?
Self-acceptance is a deep awareness of your strengths and weaknesses and a feeling of satisfaction despite past behaviours, choices and areas where you feel you are lacking. It is about embracing ALL parts of self and accepting self unconditionally.When we …
Grieving Your Childhood
So many people have a childhood that needs to be grieved for. It is appropriate to grieve your childhood if: You were parentified You were bullied by a sibling There was a lot of violence There was a lot of …
Understanding Self-Awareness
Dr. Tasha Eurich in her research differentiates between internal and external self-awareness. While gathering external data we have to bear in mind that the other person is seeing you through their own lens, so it is not objective. Of course, …
What is Blocking Your Self-Awareness?
These archetypes come from the research of Dr. Tasha Eurich. She has a fabulous TEDx talk called ‘Increase your Self-Awareness with One Simple Fix’. She says that 95% of people believe they are self-aware, but only 10% – 15% actually …
The Importance of Cultivating Self-Awareness
Dr. Tasha Eurich @tashaeurich has conducted extensive research into self-awareness. She says that 95% of people believe they are self-aware, but only 10% – 15% actually are! It makes sense, that the more we know ourselves, the more we will …
Journalling for Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is about getting to know yourself in an open, non-judgemental way. Most of us fall down right here. We might be self-aware, but we are incredibly judgemental in the process. The trick with self-awareness is to enter any self-examination …