When children have to manage their parent’s emotions, it creates a burden for the child. Being kids, they often set aside their own feelings and needs to maintain peace. They lose some of the carefree joy of being a child. …
New Harbinger Article
Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself for choosing yet another unavailable partner? Maybe he is married or lives in another state or country. Perhaps he is dating you, but seems married to his work, mother, or friends. Or maybe …
Open Minded PodCast
I had such a wonderful chat with Marla. We covered all things attachment and touched on trauma, EMDR, IFS, meditation and healing. Head over to her podcast and check it out. If you like what you hear, please leave a …
Somatic Trauma Healing
I just wanted to pop on and let you know about this offering, co-presented by ERGOS Institute of Somatic Education and The Embody Lab starting February 29th, 2024. This incredible 5-day event is led by teachers at the forefront of …
Book Review for Heal Your Anxious Attachment
Sitting back and reading the book reviews from clinicians, educators, and the general public is fantastic. It makes the year of study and focus worth it. I wrote Heal Your Anxious Attachment because my clients and community asked for a …
Book Review: Heal Your Anxious Attachment
So wonderful to read reviews like this coming in. It makes the year I spent writing it so worth it!
Be Authentic
If they’ve only ever known the version of you that walks on eggshells, careful and curated, then they’ve only seen a the watered-down version of you. It takes energy to be this smaller version, to keep the mask in place. …
I Don’t Need You
Ever heard someone say, “I don’t need anyone”? It might sound super independent, but often, it’s a kind of armour that was placed there for a reason. Those with avoidant attachment styles might find this phrase super relatable. It’s like …
Parentification
Parentification is when a child takes on the role of a parent, assuming adult responsibilities and emotional caretaking within the family. When this happens, you develop ‘parts’ of you to cope with the situation:
When a Part of You is Searching for Redemption
When a part of you is searching for redemption, you end up in toxic relationships that remind you of your past. Let’s imagine your dad was distant. Maybe he was always at work, a bit distant, and you got the …