Not all relationships can work, even with the best of intentions. But coming from a CPTSD background does not mean your relationship is doomed. I would highly recommend working with a therapist to support you as you move into deeper …
Getting Upset
Here are those phrases again: “Tell me more about how that made you feel,” “It makes sense that you would feel that way,” and “It sounds really difficult for you. Know that I’m here to support you.” Let me know …
Nedra Tawwab Quote
Living with someone who has an undiagnosed mental health issue impacts the whole family. If this is something you experienced, let me know how it impacted you. Big love, Jen
Richard Schwartz Quote
People ask me, “How do you listen to people’s trauma all day? Don’t you get affected?” Yes, I get affected. I am deeply moved by people’s experiences and pain. I’m human and want to bring that humanity into the human …
Elizabeth Earnshaw Quote
Sometimes when I share that I’m upset about something, you get upset about me being upset. It starts to feel really confusing and I end up soothing you instead of myself. This often happens when you feel that you are …
Soothing Others
An additional struggle is that when your partner needs soothing, you are unsure how to give it. You might want to provide soothing support but miss the mark. This is common when you have not received it or feel it …
10 Signs You Might Need Couple Therapy
If any of these sound familiar, couple therapy might be the next step to rebuilding or strengthening your bond. Don’t wait for a crisis—reaching out for help is a sign of strength! Love, Jen
Why I use EFT
In EFT, the therapist acts as the secure attachment figure for both people in the relationship and role models compassionate listening until the couple feels safe enough to use each other as that secure home base. The therapist guides each …
EFT Couple therapy
Breaking the Cycle: A Fresh Start in Therapy In every distressed relationship, there are patterns—sequences of behavior that continuously feed the conflict and distance between partners. Identifying these cycles is the crucial first step in therapy. When we recognize these …
Couples Who Lasted
In relationship we can often find our biggest source of comfort and refuge and sometimes our greatest source of pain. It takes effort and commitment to build a healthy relationship that is a refuge for both of you. What would …