Many individuals with anxious attachment mistakenly equate the rollercoaster of intense emotional highs and lows with the depth and intensity of love, perceiving these turbulent experiences as signs of a passionate relationship. This confusion can lead to a blurred line …
The Mindset of Secure Attachment
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You Are Important
As a trauma therapist, I’ve heard numerous stories about the messages people received in childhood that made them feel unimportant. Whether it was a sibling who demanded all of your parents’ time and energy, leaving little for you, or parents …
Earned Secure attachment
What is Earned Secure Attachment? Earned secure attachment is when someone develops secure, healthy relationship patterns in adulthood despite having experienced insecure attachments in their early years. How do you know if you have Earned Secure Attachment? When you have …
Dr Alexandra Quote
When you have been betrayed, you have a natural scar from that experience. Many people would call that experience traumatic. It is traumatic because your person, who is supposed to have your back and be one of your best friends, …
Things That Prevent Us From Talking About Birth Trauma
In research into traumatic birthing experiences, they found that “Women attribute their traumatic childbirth experience primarily to lack and/or loss of control, issues of communication, and practical/emotional support. They believe that in many cases, their trauma could have been reduced …
Healing Birth Trauma
I was so moved by how many of you shared your stories of traumatic births with me earlier in the week. Birth trauma might sound like this: I wish we were talking about this more. So – how do we …
Checking In
Ask each other, ‘How are you really doing? What’s on your mind?’ Listen with empathy, without rushing to solve or judge.” When do you do this as a couple?