This is a question that I am often asked by friends and sometimes clients who are worried about burdening me with their pain. I’m not sure if it is because of my many years of spiritual practice or because of …
Pema Chodron Quote
How would it be to be the sky today? To know that everything else is just the weather?
Relationship Rituals to Help with Connection
As a couple counsellor and wife of 18 years, I know that intimacy doesn’t just happen. It has to be cultivated. There are so many different ways to let your partner know that they are special, that you are thinking …
Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics
There are 53 million Americans who are caregivers; 89% care for a relative or partner, with women representing 75% of all caregivers. A common dilemma sounds something like this, ‘my mum was abusive to me. Yes, we had a roof …
Tips For The 5 Relationship Stages
As a couple therapist, I see people repeatedly move through all of these stages. If you do this well, you build an increasingly solid foundation for your relationship. Sometimes, however, we get stuck in the struggle and repair phase, especially …
10,000 Hours
I did a back-of-the-envelope calculation to work out how many hours of trauma therapy I had done in my career. The answer is about 15,600 hours. The interesting thing is that I am not burnt out. I LOVE what I …
Anger and Grief
As a trauma therapist, I have sat with clients for about 15,600 hours and held anger (back of a napkin calculation).I have sat with myself and held my anger.Anger is often protective – when we talk to anger, it will …
The Embody Lab
I saw this pop up on the embody lab offering list and wanted to share it with you. In today’s busy, goal-oriented, demanding environment, many of our bodies carry unreasonable stress. Somatic Stress Release™ is a holistic system to enhance …
Spiritual Life
If you like the research – check out this paper: Neuroanatomical Correlates of Religiosity and Spirituality
What Do You Choose?
I had to study a foreign language at school as a GCSE in the British education system until I was 16. I studied German because I missed a year of French when I moved schools and was too far behind. …