There have been times in my life where I have taken breaks from certain people. When a relationship is going through a particularly triggering or intense time, self-care is vital. I have had many clients who have found it beneficial …
What Different Communication Styles Look Like
We usually end up having the communication patterns we learnt as children. If you grew up in an unsafe environment, you might have responded by becoming passive and being quiet to stay safe, or you might have spoken up in …
Anger Might Show Us Where We Need To Put A Boundary In Place
Anger is an emotion that is often a messenger. It is great to get curious about what the message is and if a boundary needs to be put in place. For example, if one of your friends repeatedly criticises your …
Assertive Boundaries Sound Like…
Once we know what our boundaries are, we need to be able to communicate them effectively. Boundaries can be loving and firm. Usually, if we have had poor boundaries in the past, when we start to put boundaries in place …
Why Aligning with Your Values Makes Your Boundaries Clearer
One of the best ways to be clear about your boundaries is to align them with your values. What are values? Values are principles that you feel deeply aligned with. Some examples of values are: authenticity, adventure, community, fun, knowledge, …
How to Identify Your Boundaries
Get into the habit of checking in with yourself regularly When we have grown up in a chaotic environment, we have learned to close down in different ways to stay safe. If there were few healthy boundaries growing up, it …
Why We Need To Set Boundaries
We need boundaries so we can be clear about what is acceptable and what is not acceptable in our relationships. When we have healthy boundaries, they should provide a framework for relationships that are mutually loving, respectful and appropriate. Healthy …
What Having A Healthy Boundary With Your Self
If boundaries with ourselves are too flexible, we tend to struggle with boundaries with others. What does a boundary with yourself sound like? “I agree not to check my work emails after 6pm” “I will not eat the whole container …
Healthy Personal Boundaries Sound Like
Boundaries with yourself refers to the idea of drawing a line between what is okay for you and what is not okay. Sometimes we don’t know where the boundary needs to be until we cross it and we feel angry …
What Highly Sensitive People Want You To Know
If you are in relationship with a highly sensitive person (HSP), then this post is for you. An HSP as described by Elaine Aron in her book “The Highly Sensitive Person” is someone who is more sensitive to subtleties of …