1 - What is Reparenting? 2 - Reparenting is the process of learning to meet your authentic needs as an adult. 3 - We learn how to get our needs met by our primary caregiver. If that person was misattuned and our needs were not met or was overly critical or abusive, or that person could not care for themselves effectively. We may not learn to recognise our needs or expect to have them met by ourselves or anyone else. 4 - Signs Reparenting Would be Helpful to Me: I often abandon myself by putting others needs first I struggle to put in place healthy boundaries that protect my energy I have angry outbursts that feel like tantrums I struggle to keep promises to myself and others I have a deep sense of not being good enough Most of my relationships are co-dependent and dysfunctional I look outside myself for validation and acceptance I struggle with love addiction or other types of addictions 5 - We have the opportunity to learn how to: Validate our reality Be kind to ourselves rather than critical Say 'no' when we need to Comfort ourselves in a healthy way when we are feeling a strong emotion Tune into our authentic need at any moment

What is Reparenting?

April 8, 2021 0 Comments

Wherever you are in your healing journey, reparenting is part of it. When we have been raised by adults who didn’t know how to regulate their nervous system, who did not have the skills to role model healthy boundaries or conflict resolution, who were maybe disconnected from their body and sense of self due to their own upbringing, we need to learn these skills later in life as adults, to become cycle breakers. Our parents simply couldn’t teach us what they didn’t know.

There is a considerable movement now in the area of reparenting, it is possible to learn to reparent yourself, to learn how to be present with the scared and lonely inner child who feels not good enough, rejected and hurt. As we reparent we learn to sit with her in painful moments, to acknowledge and validate the pain. We learn how to speak to ourselves in the form of the inner child, with the greatest love and compassion.⁣⁠

I have witnessed countless moments of deep healing occur in such moments. When we stop, connect with the deeply wounded part of self, and hold space for it, magic occurs. The narratives that we have lived with for so long start to change as we gain insight into the situation through our new adult lens.⁣⁠

Reparenting is, by far, one of the most powerful things I have ever done for myself. By growing the adult part of myself, I completely changed my life. I felt safer with myself than ever before, more present, kinder to myself and more grounded, which enabled me to put boundaries in place in a more effective way, be more assertive, have better relationships. ⁣⁠Know that EVERYONE can learn reparenting skills. It might be the missing piece of the puzzle for you.

If this is something you have tried or would like to try in the future, a great place to start is in my upcoming Relationship Cycle Breaker course.

Love Jen

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