Borderline personality disorder (BPD) has “come to be understood as a posttraumatic adaptation to severe childhood abuse and attachment trauma” (Courtoise, 2004). As children in an unsafe environment, it is NORMAL to adapt to that environment to stay safe. That …
When Core Childhood Needs Remain Unmet, Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms Result.
When children are raised by attuned parents, they develop a healthy attachment style of relating in intimate relationships. When a child’s needs are not met, the child will develop ‘early maladaptive schemas’ (EMS). This term is used in Schema Therapy, …
Affirmations to Help You Heal After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
Self-Awareness mixed with Compassion results in Self-Acceptance
What is self-acceptance? Self-acceptance is a deep awareness of your strengths and weaknesses and a feeling of satisfaction despite past behaviours, choices and areas where you feel you are lacking. It is about embracing ALL parts of self and accepting …
What are YOUR Blockages to TRUE Self-Awareness
True self-awareness takes courage. We have to be ready to look within and find things we don’t like and / or feel unable to change. Sometimes self-awareness can feel more like a punishing party. This is why I am a …
It Is Possible To Grieve For Your Childhood AND Appreciate The Good Things About It At The Same Time
So many people have a childhood that needs to be grieved for. It is appropriate to grieve your childhood if: You were parentified You were bullied by a sibling There was a lot of violence There was a lot of …
What is Self-Awareness
Dr. Tasha Eurich (2019) in her research, differentiates between internal and external self-awareness. Internal self-awareness can be cultivated through: Journaling Daily reflection Compassionate inquiry into past events External self-awareness can be cultivated through: Asking for (and being open to) feedback …
Self-Awareness Archetypes
These archetypes come from the research of Dr. Tasha Eurich (2019). She has a fabulous TEDx talk called ‘Increase your Self-Awareness with One Simple Fix’. She says that 95% of people believe they are self-aware, but only 10% – 15% …
The Benefits of Self-Awareness
Research has proven the benefits of self-awareness. It has been linked to performance at work and is one of the strongest predictors of personal and organisational success and satisfaction. Dr Tasha Eurich @tashaeurich has conducted extensive research into self-awareness. She …
Some Journal Prompts for Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is about getting to know yourself in an open, non-judgemental way. Most us fall down right here. We might be self-aware, but we are incredibly judgemental in the process. The trick with self-awareness is to enter any self-examination or …