When we have grown up with few boundaries and been taught that boundaries are selfish, it can be challenging to put them in place as an adult. It can be challenging to know what is appropriate, what you need, and …
How We Meet On Each Level, If At All
If you read through this list and know that energy is lacking in one of these areas in your relationship, I wonder how that area could be energised in some way? How could you meet in that area differently? What …
Relationships are a Co-creation.
It is a fairytale to expect that love, desire and connection will be provided by our partner all of the time. That they will be able and willing to attend to us all of the time, to attune to us …
5 Neuroscience Tips To Help You Focus
Have you ever wasted a whole day or week doing the easy tasks? I know I have! I find blocking out dedicated time for the more complex tasks to be incredibly effective. During that time, I have the ‘do not …
“Trauma is a fact of life. It does not have to be a life sentence.”
For many people, trauma feels like a life sentence. It feels inescapable – a constant cloud of sadness, anxiety, or fear. Trauma is a sense of overwhelm that impacts our ability to adapt, thrive, and flourish. The symptoms of trauma …
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway
On the one hand, I get this…let’s not be tied down by our own fear story and let it stand in the way of potentially fantastic opportunities and experiences. On the other hand, we want to be able to tolerate …
Integrative Somatic Trauma Healing training
The Integrative Somatic Trauma Healing training with the Embody Lab starts September 24th! I’m just a bit excited! Research has shown the importance of somatics in trauma healing, something I have been using with clients for the last 16 years. …
6 Ways to Stimulate the Vagus Nerve For Improved Mental Health
Cold exposure Meditation – increases empathy, focus and reduces anxiety and depression. Slow Breaths – try in for 3 and out for 6 Humming Exercise – increases brain health Laughter – boosts your immune system
Often, When People Rage, They Are Suffering
What does it mean to suffer? There are many ways we can suffer. We can suffer physically with pain, mentally with mental illness or rumination, or spiritually with a lack of meaning or moral dilemma. Suffering is part of the …
The Five Components of Compassion
Compassion is an orientation towards suffering. It is how we meet the suffering of others and our suffering. Recognising suffering Understanding the human experience of suffering as universal Emotionally connecting with the other person’s suffering Being able to tolerate uncomfortable …