Knowing your attachment style might give you a lot of insight into why you sabotage relationships. In this video, I explain why you might sabotage your relationship and how you might do it as well as the push / pull …
7 Things To Do When You Have Been Ghosted
For me, the interesting thing about ghosting is what it brings up for you. It can take a moment to take attention off the person who has done the ghosting and be with self. It is often easier to focus …
Why Does Ghosting Hurt?
Ghosting hurts because you have an emotional investment in the relationship, full stop. It might be a complete shock to realise that your partner doesn’t have the same emotional investment. Interestingly, for most of you on yesterday’s story that asked …
Why Do People Ghost?
Ghosting hurts. A study conducted by Plenty of Fish (a dating site) in 2016 found that 78% of millennials aged 18-33 had been ghosted. 78%!!!!!! Imagine that you are in a relationship with someone, and suddenly you stop hearing from …
The Difference Between A One-Off Trauma and Complex Trauma.
There is a huge difference between a one-off, shock trauma and complex trauma. In this panel interview, I explain the differences using a personal experience with shock trauma. This panel interview was one of a three-part series exploring trauma for …
Coercive Control
I have witnessed some of these relationships up close and personal, and I can tell you that they can be SUPER confusing because the person concerned will often make you feel that you are the centre of the universe. They …
Is Disconnection From Nature, Others, And Self The Cause Of Much Of Our Suffering?
I just finished a discussion with one of my supervisors around connection. I have a deep feeling that if we were more connected many of our problems would improve, especially in the field of mental health. When I stop and …
How To Develop A Strong Sense Of Self
Discovering who we are and what our values are takes time and is an ever-evolving phenomenon. It is even more challenging in a culture with strong ideas about what we ‘should’ value and what we ‘should’ aspire to, even what …
Trauma to Transform or Transfer?
n the full version, we had the opportunity to discuss trauma, how it sits in the body, how it can be transformed, and how it is transferred intergenerationally. We also cover attachment theory, different types of trauma, and trauma responses. …
Co-Regulation
Co-Regulation We are not born knowing how to soothe ourselves. We need to learn the felt sense of being soothed from someone who can bear our distress and stay regulated in their own nervous system. This is known as co-regulation. …