I grew up in a pretty obligation free zone. Although we had clear rules about behaviour and other things, there wasn’t a general feeling of obligation. No, “you need to call your mother” or “you need to look after us …
Signs Of Emotional Exhaustion
We have all been there. When we feel like there is no more to give, to ourselves or anyone else. We are burnt out, and emotionally exhausted. When this happens for me, I know it is a big shout out …
When We Excpect To Only Feel Happiness, We Set Ourselves Up To Fail.
Experiencing emotions is part of being human. When we expect to only feel the ‘positive’ emotions we set ourselves up to fail. Part of the work is to find a place of comfort with all of our emotions. It’s a …
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
In 1943 Maslow presented his ‘Hierarchy of Needs’, a model of how humans are motivated. He suggested that we move our psyche and our whole being towards something that he called ‘self-actualisation’ (Maslow, A. A Theory of Human Motivation, 1943). …
When We Compare Ourselves To Others We Can Inadvertently
Let’s first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, hopeful, as though anything is possible. When we are comparing ourselves to someone, there is a one up, …
When We Practice Radical Acceptance.
We can Stop Fighting What Is. This Frees Us Up to Choose the Next Step. Acceptance and compassion form one of the modules in my course ‘‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. In it, you will work through exactly HOW to move into …
It is Not Weak to Yearn For Deep Connection
Relational patterns can be difficult to shift. I find it is in the small moments of change that big shifts occur. If you would like to work on your relational patterns, you might enjoy my upcoming course, ‘Relationship Cycle Breaker’. …
Dark Night of the Soul as an Existential Crisis
Where the Scaffolds Come Crashing Down Did you know that the origin of the phrase ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ is a poem written by a 16th-century Spanish mystic, St John of the Cross? In it, he talks about the …
What is Your ‘Core Wound’?
A core wound is caused by a painful experience, which shaped how you feel about yourself or the world. It then drives what you believe and how you behave. It impacts your life often without your knowledge, so we …
When You Are In Repeat Pattern…
We have all been there, at that moment when you are doing precisely the same thing AGAIN. You are in pattern repeat, a cycle. For example, you are annoyed that your partner just spent a whole lot of the family …