Ever notice how certain people trigger you? It’s often because they remind you of a part of yourself you’ve struggled to accept. When we reject or fear our own parts, we tend to do the same to others who mirror …
Category: Wellness
Every Healthy Choice
Self-love isn’t just about how you feel about yourself, it’s also what you do for yourself. It’s about what you choose. ✨ Saying no to temporary comfort…Because you’re saying yes to your long-term wellbeing. It’s not always pretty.It’s not always …
Conflict Doesn’t Have to Mean Crisis
Secure couples know how to repair and come back. They don’t get it right all the time, but they keep working on it and learning about themselves and each other through the process. Be gentle with each other. Love, Jen
What Secure Attachment Feels Like
In a secure relationship, your nervous system’s resting place is in the ventral vagal state—a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with social engagement, safety, and calmness. The goal isn’t to stay in this state all the time. It’s …
Integrating Traumatic Experiences
When we experience trauma, our thoughts, emotions, and body can feel fragmented—like they’re speaking different languages. We might notice flashbacks, racing thoughts, numbness, dissociation, or a pounding heart. These reactions come from different parts of the brain: Neocortex = thoughtMammalian …
A Bottom-Up Approach to Trauma
Top-Down vs Bottom-Up Healing When it comes to trauma therapy, the order matters. A top-down approach starts with the thinking brain (neocortex). Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a good example—reframing thoughts to shift behaviour. But here’s the challenge: when you’re …
When to Seek Help for Trauma
Trauma can feel like a crack in your energy system—sometimes it heals naturally, and sometimes it doesn’t. When symptoms persist or worsen after a month, it’s time to seek support. Flashbacks, numbness, anxiety, anger, and self-medicating are all signs your …
How do American Indian’s Heal Trauma?
As a psychotherapist and healer specialising in trauma, I’ve often found myself wondering—how do other cultures heal trauma? After all, trauma is not new. Throughout history, people have lived through war, illness, displacement, and abuse. So, how did our ancestors …
You Don’t Have to be “Broken” to See a Therapist.
Working with a therapist can be one of the most empowering experiences of your life.Many people have never had the chance to be truly seen, heard, and held in a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space. That in itself is healing.While …
When You Compare Yourself To Others, You Can Inadvertently
Comparing ourselves to others can be such a waste of energy! Let us first differentiate between being inspired by someone and comparing yourself to someone. When we feel inspired by someone, we feel uplifted, hopeful, as though anything is possible. …