Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to make sense of what happened. The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about …
Category: Relationships
Is It Possible To Change My Attachment Style?
Up until age two, our brain is growing at a furious rate. The neurons are connecting, and the brain is being wired, literally. In the relationship with our primary caregiver (usually the mother), we are being wired for relationship. If …
Breaking Family Cycles
My dad was a welder. He worked until he retired at 65. He did manual labour. He worked hard. To him, being a successful adult meant working hard, being frugal and staying safe. He didn’t know anyone who had gone …
Conflict and Connection
Conflict provides an opportunity for a deeper connection. Most of us are not taught this. We are taught that conflict is scary and to be avoided. We might have learnt from our family of origin that conflict results in physical …
Feeling The Same Pain Again
Running from the pain won’t stop the pattern from repeating itself. Your subconscious is trying desperately to heal; it presents you with situation after situation until you pause and get curious. Not in a self-punishing way but in a compassionate, …
Give Up Being Right
Research in relationships shows that men find it more difficult than women to accept influence from their partners (see J. Gottman’s research). But, let’s face it, we can all love to win, and we are living in a culture that …
Having To Be Right
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has to be right all the time? It can be so frustrating. Even when there is evidence that they are wrong, they won’t openly say, “oh, I was wrong”, they …
How to Reconnect After An Argument
We all know those uncomfortable few minutes after a heated discussion. The argument's energy is hanging in the air, and you are both processing what was said. If your trauma response has been activated, you might be calming your nervous …
Episode 35: Unlocking Relationship Patterns
the pursuer-withdrawer pattern in relationships, a dynamic that can significantly impact relationship satisfaction and longevity. Dr. Ferguson shares her journey into psychology and hypnotherapy, offering deep insights into how these modalities can aid in self-discovery and healing.
Amanda Ferguson
Another great conversation with Dr Amanda Ferguson, someone who has traveled a similar path of healing to me. Listen to this episode to learn: Here’s the link to the podcast: Love Jen X