If you grew up with a lot of criticism around you, you likely have a loud, critical voice in your head as an adult. Usually, that critical voice is directed inward, but in intimate relations Criticism usually grows out of …
Category: Relationships
Tips to Become Less Defensive
The four communication styles that have a negative impact on your relationships according to the Gottmans: Everyone will have a favoured method. Mine is defensiveness. Defensiveness is a response to criticism and tends to increase conflict because the other person …
But I had a Stable Home. Why Am I Avoidant In Relationships?
You might have grown up with a roof over your head and three meals a day with your two parents. You might look back at your childhood and think, “Okay, I was alone a lot, and my family weren’t very …
Attachment Styles and their Impact on Relationships
Let me know what questions you have about attachment and attachment styles. Love, Jen
Attachment Exists On A Spectrum
ttachment exists on a spectrum, with ‘secure’ in the middle. You might emerge from childhood with more anxious traits in relationships. You might enter a relationship with someone securely attached and find that you are moving on the spectrum towards …
Hot and Cold Behaviours
Hot and cold behaviours will trigger anxiety regardless of your attachment style. If one day they are sending you flowers and the next they are not responding to a text, that’s hot and cold. If one day they invite you …
Attachment Needs
Register for my free training to learn about The Cycle Breakers Circle, a unique, repeatable healing process designed to help you break free from destructive cycles in your life and relationships. This process guides you through three key stages of transformation: Discovery, Healing, …
The Most Effective Parenting Strategy
The key here is to be with your child without asking them to do anything or respond to anything. You are offering them the most precious thing you have—your presence and your attention.