Tag: Self-care

Words used to shame and prevent assertiveness: Bossy & selfish

Words Used to Shame and Prevent Assertiveness:

September 12, 2022

A sure way to stop people from being assertive is to shame them. As Brene Brown talks about so wonderfully in her book ‘Daring Greatly’, shame is pervasive in our culture. It limits innovation, authentic self-expression and stops us from …

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Committing to Your Boundaries

Committing to Your Boundaries

September 9, 2022

So often, nobody knows about your small wins. If you are like me, you might tend to minimise your successes with something like, “Well, I am only not reading them now after 8.30 pm. Most people already do that, so …

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EXAMPLES OF HEALTHY PERSONAL BOUNDARIES I will not check work emails after (insert time) pm I will not slam doors or shout during arguments I will take some time out when I need to I will not reconnect with my ex when I feel down I will answer messages when I have time and space I will stop eating when I feel full I will only think loving thoughts about my body I will get 7-8 hours of sleep every night I will have regular hours of sleep I will take time to self-care every day I will not call unsupportive people when triggered I will limit my social media intake

Examples of Healthy Personal Boundaries

September 9, 2022

Boundaries with yourself refer to the idea of drawing a line between what is okay for you and what is not okay.  Sometimes we don’t know where the boundary needs to be until we cross it, and we feel angry …

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Self care for highly sensitive people

Self-Care for Highly Sensitive People

September 9, 2022

Identify that you are feeling overstimulated and need to calm  Build a ‘safe place’ inside yourself that feels grounded, calm, and safe. A place you can connect to when feeling overwhelmed. Be the observer of your overarousal – know that …

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HOW TO REDUCE HYPERAROUSAL When you have gone into hyperarousal, which is a fight or flight response, there are a few things you can try to bring yourself into the window of tolerance or back into a state of calm. Here’s one to try. First, take a pause and go somewhere quiet if you can. Then notice the signs of activation in your body, your racing heart, and sweaty palms, then find a felt sense of groundedness in your body and focus on it. This might take a moment, be patient with yourself. Know that you are going to be okay. You are just activated, your body has gone into a trauma response, and you are being with yourself while you return to your window of tolerance.

How to Reduce Hyperarousal

September 7, 2022

Hyperarousal is when excessive energy is expressed as anxiety, panic, feeling out of control and wanting to run away. It is challenging to relax when this happens as our body has gone into fight or flight mode. It is difficult …

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Self-Betrayal: Neglecting Your Needs When you have grown up in an environment where your needs were not met or ignored, you learned to disconnect from them. As an adult, this has created one of two situations: You don’t know what you need You know what you need, but you push it down and ignore it, believing you are not as important as the people around you.

Self-Betrayal: Neglecting Your Needs

August 24, 2022

Being scared of your needs is NORMAL when you have grown up in an environment where it was not okay or safe to ask for your needs to be met. Know that you CAN shift this pattern. You CAN reconnect …

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The art of self care

The Art Of Self-Care

June 21, 2022

When discussing self-care with my clients, I like to start with the basics. Are you getting enough sleep?  How much is enough sleep? Everyone is different, but I believe there is a minimum requirement for most people. A few years …

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5 Tips for Gaslighting at Work: Document the dates, times and specifics of the events on a personal phone or laptop. If necessary, notify HR. Know your truth. Don’t be manipulated into doubting yourself and what you know to be true. A great way to check this out is to check in with other people in the office. Always meet the gaslighter with other people present so they can corroborate your version of events. Check-in with yourself about staying in this job. Is the stress worth it? It might seem like the gaslighter wins if you leave, but is this true? Do YOU win if you go? Is that the final boundary around what you will and will not accept? Put as much as possible in writing so there is a paper trail of ideas, meeting changes etc., that cannot later be refuted.

5 Tips to help you with Gaslighting at Work:

June 7, 2022

Gaslighting at work can ruin your confidence and career. I have seen it. The behaviour is easier to manage if other people in the office see what is happening. It is much more difficult when one person is singled out …

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How do I build Self-trust?

How Do I Build Self-Trust?

May 25, 2022

Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …

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Can someone love themselves and want plastic surgery?

Can Plastic Surgery Be A Form of Self-Love?

May 6, 2022

I’d love to hear what you think in the comments below.

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